“It’s a great way to model philanthropy for the children,” says Coleman. “It is not inherent, it has to be taught, and the best way is by example.”
This Hanukkah, in between lighting the menorah, playing dreidel games, and eating latkes, why not try engaging your family members in supporting charitable giving? Judie and Coleman offer a few tips for your approach:
- Explain your values and why charitable giving matters - Explain why charitable giving is important. This letter explains to their grandchildren the values they live by, and that many children are not as fortunate as you and do not have the basic necessities of life. This emphasizes the meaning and importance of appreciating what you have and helping people who are less fortunate.
- Adopt your approach with age - It’s never too early to teach children about tzedakah (charity), and you can deepen their involvement over time. For Judie and Coleman, they have increased the level of gift, responsibility and expectation as the children get older.
- Encourage children to share - Children learn more about charitable giving when they can engage and share their experience. Judie and Coleman have enjoyed reading the letters of their grandchildren about organizations they’ve chosen, and they have bonded over this meaningful experience.
“What’s especially encouraging is the continued commitment of our grandchildren on their own and their involvement in various charitable causes throughout the year,” says Coleman and Judie. “These results, that’s what matters, and this is sowing the seeds for the future.”
Want to try it?
Judie and Coleman have generously offered to share their successful letter template. For a copy, or a discussion about your situation, please contact Kathryn Gonnerman at kgonnerman@jcfhartford.org or 413-475-0415.